If you’re going into a potentially triggering tag(s) where survivors of abuse might look for help, resources, or others who can relate, but you end up trying to police how they react to being triggered because they might not be using the most “polite” tone… I think you need to reevaluate what you’re doing.
Someone feeling like they were talked to in a tone that is less than “polite” or “sweet” isn’t what you should be focusing on. You should be focusing on the victim that was just triggered into remembering or reliving a traumatic experience by your post. This isn’t about you. It’s just not.
Do not tone-police survivors into being extra sweet and sugar-coating their problems with your posts when it leads to them being hurt.